If only you wake up at 5 am, oh wait, 4 am is better.
If only you don’t look at your phone first thing when you wake up.
If only you go for a jog or meditate or…
… then you too will be successful, like [insert a name of a celebrity here].
The problem is that these articles persuade us to follow some idealized, trending, perfect ritual – whatever that perfect ritual is.
The problem is that we are not “them” – these epitomes of “success.”
The problem is that when we can’t keep up with the perfect-success-routine, we can feel like a failure – utter, complete failure.
Just reading and trying to keep up with the superhuman morning routines can make you feel terrible.
I feel terrible. I’m not living up to this standard of perfection.
I must be doing something wrong.
I must be a loser.
Here’s the thing:
There are thousands – millions of successful people who don’t follow these perfect routines. Besides, are we even sure the super “successful” few that claim to have these routines do them? Perhaps these are ideal scenarios for them, but the reality may be much different?
“People are far more likely to describe their ideal morning than their realistic one.”
Gordon Flett, a personality researcher at York University
And, we are not even talking about what is meant by “successful.” (another topic for another time)
You can be successful.
You can be a high performer.
You can be an energizer bunny each day (if you want to) – without trying to follow somebody’s perfect morning routine.
A surefire way to not stick to a routine is by forcing yourself into one that you don’t care about or isn’t realistic in your circumstances.
You can be anything you want.
Do what works for you.
If your mornings are helter-skelter, messy and all over the place, embrace it.
If you feel your mornings could use more organization, clarity, focus…
…try a test by simplifying a couple of things.
Your morning routine doesn’t have to be perfectly choreographed.
The same goes for nightly routines.
Be flexible and be kind to yourself.
Perfection is an illusion.